Talk of “toxic masculinity” dominates the feeds. It’s everywhere. But look closer. It’s a definition of failure, not a roadmap.
Brant Hansen argues we’re handing men a mirror that only reflects what they’re supposed not to be. Young guys? They don’t know the opposite. What does a good man look like?
We spend all this time tearing things down. Deconstructing. Rarely building.
Men need a vision. Not for performance, but for identity. Hansen points to God. Not as a distant judge, but as a creator with a job for everyone. Healthy or disabled, rich or struggling, student or mechanic. The call doesn’t discriminate.
God created men for a purpose, and that purpose is non-negotiable.
Think of the Garden. Adam got a task: keeper. Protector. When he ate the fruit—sitting right beside Eve, remember that detail—he dropped the post. He abandoned the mission. And yeah. The world broke. It hasn’t fully healed since.
Men show up, places get safer. Families thrive. Simple as that.
Hansen says aimlessness isn’t an accident. It’s the result of chasing the cheap stuff. Pleasure. Comfort. Convenience. You get stuck when you settle for less than the transcendent.
He outlines six choices to fix it.
- Forsake the fake, relish the real.
- Protect the vulnerable.
- Get ambitious about the right things.
- Ensure women and children feel safe, never threatened.
- Choose today who you become tomorrow.
- Own your spiritual life.
Why keep drifting if the anchor is right there?
Hansen joins Jim Daly on Focus on the Family to push this point. Love your family well. Actually do the work.
Listen on radio, podcasts, or the app if you want the full chat. Or don’t. The choice is the first step anyway.
